5 Ways to Live Confidently

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Check out my published article in Nia Magazine!

Super excited about it. Pray it blesses you.

ORIGINAL POST HERE: http://www.niamagazine.com/5-ways-to-live-confidently/

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“With confidence, you have won before you have started” – Marcus Garvey

When you think about those people who are successful and you aspire to be like, such as Oprah, Martha Stewart, Farrah Gray, the late Steve Jobs, Bill Gates or even the power music couple Jay-Z and Beyonce’, what is the common character trait that they possess?

The answer…CONFIDENCE!

Each believe and have firm trust in not only their talent, but also themselves. And because confidence is contagious, we as viewers believe in them.

It’s been stated that the number one reason people never take the leap of faith to do those things they love and become who they are destined to be, is: a lack of confidence.

You’ve always wanted to quit the corporate life and start your own company but you say you can’t because you don’t have the money to do so. Well, here’s a newsflash – the lack of money is not the real issue.

A lack of confidence is.

Many of those moguls did not have the money to start their brands but they definitely possessed the confidence. I still remember Farrah Gray’s story shared on Oprah of how he sold painted rocks at the age of six and became a young millionaire with other business ventures by age fourteen; just because he knew he could.

With the quote that began this article, the young Farrah Gray won before he began! It’s time for you to do the same.

Here are 5 ways to Live Confidently. Now.

1. Know Who You Are

When you know who you are, and are accepting of who you are, you are not easily broken when someone else challenges you to be something different. This, I will admit, doesn’t happen overnight, but once you know who you are it becomes unshakeable.

Identify your strengths and opportunities, then learn how to celebrate your strengths in all that you do. If you don’t know what they are, start by completing a simple exercise: list five things that you do really well along with the top five things you know and love about yourself.

2. Know That Confidence Already Lives Inside of You

Reflect on moments from early childhood. The times before you became self-aware and were told you couldn’t do something.

I reflect back to the days when I wanted to climb trees simply because the boys were doing it. Everyday I would climb higher and higher. When the boys told me I couldn’t do it, I climbed higher to make fun of them. But when my granny told me that was not lady-like, I began to question myself.

Remember: you already possess confidence. You just need to re-ignite the fire inside to allow it to show through.

3. Kick Fear and Take the Risk!

That’s right, kick fear in the face and just jump. Take the risk now. You will not know the outcome until you actually do it. Assuming is just another way for fear to take control.

Taking a risk involves not always feeling safe and that is okay.

4. Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable

Embracing the unknown and accepting uncomfortable situations is a key to living confidently. It goes perfectly with #3.

You have to accept that you can not plan everything. You do not know the outcome of all situations and sometimes, you will be challenged and uncomfortable. This is all a part of life. So live!

You have to step out of the familiar predictability of your comfort zone.

If you focus on the endpoint and not the process, you become more welcoming of the discomfort.

5. Begin and End with a Smile

It’s one of the simplest things in life to do that offers a large return. Smiling tricks the brain in thinking you are happy. And guess what? When you smile, you instantly become happy. It releases endorphins and reduces stress.

Step out and live confidently NOW. None of us are guaranteed tomorrow, so live boldly today.

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Invest Where Necessary

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One of the best ways to protect your growth is by investing in yourself!

Invest physically, spiritually, financially and mentally.

What does it mean to invest in yourself? Well simply stated, it means to care more about your God-given purpose greater than the many life distractions that may come your way. Listen, God never said it would be easy but I do know from personal testimony that it is definitely worth it!

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When you care more, you will invest in proper eating and exercise to perform at your very best. You will spend more time with Christ to understand your divine purpose. You will invest financially to receive the education necessary and you will take the time to invest mentally as what you think, you shall become.

When you know you are worth it, you stand a little taller and you also care just a little bit more.

INVEST WHERE NECESSARY!

If you are in need of more confidence, invest in it! Take a course that will help you get what you need!

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I’ve decided to make it easier for you. It only cost $20 and requires you to show up and be ready to receive the tools and empowerment to take necessary steps to kickstart your confidence.

Will you join me? If you have not registered, sign up today:

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Hope to see you there!

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GIVE BACK! Our Teens deserve it!

So…

I’ve been teaching a course at church entitled Teen K.I.C.K.

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This week we completed and shared our vision boards. These girls were so empowered to share their desires for the future.

Here are some pics from tonights event:

This is just a taste of what will occur during my first Teen K.I.C.K. Conference August 27th!

I have been charged by God to give back to our youth and that’s exactly what I will do.

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This conference is for teen girls only. The focus is on building and igniting each girls confidence to live boldly as Christ intends for them.

The young sophisticated confidence in our girls is dying.My God-given purpose is to enrich and empower while reviving what the enemy intended to die.

Will you help support this conference in being the very best possible?

Please check out here for more info and donate today!!

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Monday Motivation… Get Coached!

Looking to give your confidence the kickstart needed to open that small business, kickstart your career or even just kickstart your life?

Well, here is your opportunity!

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Confidence K.I.C.K.start™ 

This interactive presentation will help you:

K. Know who you are and who you are destined to be

Get to the Core (assessment to find your purpose)

Who are you destined to be (How are you impacting and changing the world positively?)

• I. Ignite what already lives within

Discover what’s within

Feed, Nurture, Grow the gift

• C. Confidently speaking because body language speaks louder than the words

Speaking Non-verbally

Speaking Eloquently

• K. Keep it moving! Don’t let one life situation erode the confidence you’ve built

Overcoming obstacles

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Join me July 19th & July 21st for this Continuing Education Course offered at Lamar Institute of Technology. I want to help you kickstart your confident living!

SIGN UP TODAY: http://www.lit.edu/workforce/programs/3/courses

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Lemonade, Tea, Me & Bey

So,

Beyonce’ dropped yet another amazing visual album and the world stopped… then carried on. 🙂

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Although I absolutely loved her transparency, ability to showcase she is as human as the rest of us and creativity, I am using this forum to share how you too, can turn the lemons in life into lemonade and proudly carry on!

Here are the top 3 lessons (yes there were more) I learned from Lemonade, were able to relate with and so can you:

  1. NO ONE IS EXEMPT TO EXPERIENCE THE TRIALS IN WHAT WE CALL LIFE! In the words of the one who was once my “husband in my head” and now painting clouds purple as he passed on to glory, Prince “Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to get through this thing called life.” Truth is, we ALL go through it. But only a few will choose to grow through it. Beyonce’ shared her trial and how she’s grown and you can too. Whatever that thing is whether it’s marital problems, infidelity, insecurities, childhood trauma, or even health scares, sweetheart, you are not the first nor will you be the last. Pick up your bed and walk free. Cry, become angry, scream, pout, question and do whatever you need to let it out, but most of all, be sure to KEEP MOVING FORWARD!
  2. DON’T ALLOW IT TO “INTERRUPT YOUR GRIND!” Simply stated, *ish happens. Keep it moving. Bey shared how distractions, even those considered to be your husband can interrupt the plans God has for you if you are not careful. Do things in His will and never lose sight of the end prize. I have to be transparent and share, I fell into this trap for almost a year and when I heard those words “interrupting my grinding” all I could do was jolt up from the lying down position I was in and say in my Kevin Hart voice “wait… I wasn’t ready!” But the truth is, I needed to hear that. NOW… it’s about what I will do with that boost of inspiration. Come on now ladies, get in formation and follow suit! Don’t let anyone or anything interrupt the plans He has for you. Know your purpose and never stray away from it. If you get coins along the way, that is just an added blessing 🙂
  3. FORGIVENESS, FREEDOM AND MOVING ON! When life hands you lemons, make the best lemonade, forgive those who’ve done you wrong, own your freedom and once again, keep it moving! Forgiveness is the key to it all. Many times, why we get stuck is because we forget to forgive. Forgive the one whose wrong you, forgive what has happened to you and forgive yourself for what you’ve done to you including the extended pity party you threw. Own your freedom and let NO ONE take it from you. From family to social media to being captive to un-forgiveness, take your freedom back! “Freedom, freedom, I can’t move! Freedom, cut me loose!” 

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So this is the Lemonade and Tea from me with learnings from Bey!

What are yours?

P.S. If you are needing some help in turning your lemons into lemonade, reach out to me, The Confidence Coach today for your FREE 30 minute Consultation!

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Be sure to share your learnings below!

Guarantee Yourself!

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When was the last time you guaranteed you?

I was listening to Eric Thomas today for my daily personal development and I feel in love with something he said. He shared how we demand our money back on a specific thing when it states “30-day money back guarantee” and doesn’t deliver on it’s promise, but we don’t even do the same thing for ourselves. When was the last time you went hard for yourself? For your craft? How often do you stand behind your words, keep promises and follow through to your God-given purpose? It’s time to start now!!

Confidence is about being certain of something. A guarantee is a formal promise or assurance of something. I pose the question today of “Do you, guarantee you?”

Check out this great click from the Hip Hop Preacher and share what will you do differently today to focus follow through on what God has asked you to do with your life!!

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Share below how you will guarantee yourself!

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Wisdom Wednesday! Words from Oprah

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How many times have you stressed about becoming successful? Stressed about becoming successful in your start up, in your marriage, or even in your battle with health? This quote right here from the lovely Ms Oprah sheds light on what we should really focus on.

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  1. the quality of being worthy of attention; importance.
  2. the meaning to be found in words or events.

The quality of being worthy of attention; importance… this is some deep *ish to consider.

So many in the social arena today gain attention attached with the price of selling their bodies, faux lifestyles, peace of mind and even souls.
When considering doing something that works toward being significant is much greater than that. How does your actions, offerings and services better the world for future generations to come? How do you impact or re-write history positively?

Really think on this.

Personally, I know what I am doing is BEYOND me, therefor it serves great significance. Simply stated, I do what I do because I KNOW this is my God-given duty. I know this is my God-given destiny and because of being obedient to His will for my life, I am a blessing to many. I am significant in my business. I am significant in my actions and speaking. Because of this, success overflows from me

AND THIS IS ALL THAT MATTERS.

Be blessed & and be sure to SHARE how you are working toward being significant below!!

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TGIM! I’m Back! How BIG is your faith?

Hey Hey Heyyyyy!!!!

 

TGIM is back!

Check it out below, share and comment! Let’s kick off our Monday with motivation.

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Meditation Is Key

Hey All!

Focusing on #Wellness for the month of January as a way for us to live intentional!

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As stated in previous post, this week is all about Mental Health! Yesterday we focused on the importance of breathing… today is about meditation. And before you say, “ain’t no body got time for that” I will rebut saying “YES YOU DO!”

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Contrary to popular believe, you can have an effective meditation moment in as little as 60 seconds… that’s only 1 minute of your time!

The above video showcase how you can meditate in literally a minute. Meditation is a great tool to use throughout your entire day. While at work, before starting your day or even when you are ready to go to sleep are all great times to take a moment to mediate.

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As a personal testimony, mediation has helped me with creativity, to release stress and to be able to overcome some of my biggest obstacles. if it helped a workaholic, control freak like me, I know you can benefit from it as well!

 

Be sure to try it out today and share your experience below

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It’s 2016… Live Intentionally!

Many Blessings to you and yours for the year of 2016 and beyond!!

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It’s a New Year and another opportunity for you to live out your purpose! Being transparent, 2015 definitely had many more valleys than mountains but To God be the glory as it ALL works for the good of HIM!

This year, I have decided to live with intention and I want you to join me on this journey.

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Each month I will focus on one specific area to live with intention. I believe if we take the opportunity to enjoy the moments, find purpose in it all and truly live with intention, we will find accomplish many more goals and truly live our best lives!

This is the opportunity to build a circle of accountability while being encouraged along the way with great tips from none other than Coach K!

Here are the focus for each month:

JANUARY – Wellness

FEBRUARY – Confidence

MARCH – Organization

APRIL – Clarity

MAY – Growth

JUNE – Self

JULY – Family

AUGUST – Learning

SEPTEMBER – Reflection

OCTOBER – Breathe

NOVEMBER – Giving

DECEMBER – Him

Take a minute or five or thirty and think about those things in 2015 you didn’t get the opportunity to finish or those things you wish you could do differently. Then, recognize since you are still living, you have the opportunity to turn them into real goals for 2016. Write them down, give a rough time frame, and begin to take action steps all while surrendering to Jesus, letting Him lead you. Let’s prayerfully take action and live intentionally. We can do this together with laser focus and I’m here to help encourage along the way with a specific focus each month.

So to kick it off… please be sure to join me starting January 4th to get tips and encouragement from me for Wellness! Let’s live with intention each and every step of 2016!

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Be on the look out! Much more to come!!!

Get ready to #LiveIntentionally

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Master your Strengths

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While doing weekly planning, I start by completing these questions:

  1. What are the top three priorities for the week
  2. What am I proud of and grateful for from the previous week
  3. What are my strengths… simply for personal development

I know you make look at my list and question why I do it this way. Well, I’ve recognized as an extreme organizational control freak, creating long to do lists do not always reap positive results. I’ve learned by shortening the list to the top three gives the opportunity to fulfill giving my best and give me the opportunity to stop, smell the flowers, have small celebrations and actually live and grow through the process versus just doing.

I believe in all work in life we should always showcase gratitude by ,recognizing what we’ve come from, learned, grown from and proud of. I did this on a continual basis when hosting my “TGIM Monday Motivational Moment” sharing Kisha’s Life Lessons. You can check out more here:

I also use my chic tools to help set my day and week up for success. Download them for FREE here:

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I also believe it’s important to include personal development throughout each work week. This allows my to continue to grow. When looking for personal development I like to focus on my strengths to become a master at it versus focusing on my weaknesses. The reason for this is firstly, Focusing on the weakness isn’t always as inspiring and rarely produces outstanding results.

I believe it’s important to master your strengths because:

 

  • Developing the awareness of WHEN to use a particular strength and when NOT to use it creates leverage in how you grow.
  • Developing the awareness of HOW MUCH to use a particular strength and in what specific circumstances you should use it.
  • Developing actual skill in using a particular strength puts you as the best in the field you desire to be in.

What are your strengths and how will you master them?

Real leaders not only recognize their strengths, they know the power in outsourcing their weaknesses. If you are not good at redesigning your website and you know that is a task that needs to be complete to take your blog to the next level… reach out to those that are the masters in that area.

Remember, you don’t have to spend a lot of money on that either. There are plenty of talented college students or freelancers waiting for the opportunity to showcase their work… take the risk and outsource your weakness. This doesn’t make you lazy… it makes you smart and a great business leader. It gives you the freedom to master and showcase your strengths and one of them is knowing when and where you need help. 🙂

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Love Change

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REPEAT: ” I love change and easily adjust myself to new situations”

Remember, change is inevitable but growth is optional. We ALL will experience change and for some it may be a daunting task but if you speak positivity in the midst of and even before, you can prepare yourself for anything that comes your way.

It’s not about what you go through but how you choose to deal with those things you encounter.

What does your heart say?

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CHIC TIP: FOOD

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Today I am sharing my Chic Tip for food! Please follow my FaceBook Page for daily Chic Tips on Food, Finances, Fashion, Business, Lifestyle and Following your Passions!

Add more color to your diet to ensure you are getting proper nutrients daily. And don’t be afraid to try something new!

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Like this recipe for a great breakfast sandwich:
2 slices of bread of your choice
3 eggs
1 tsp. of pesto sauce
1/4 cup cheddar cheese
Handful of baby spinach
2 tomato slices
1/8 avocado
Sriracha to taste
(See how to cook on IG page With Peanut Butter on Top)
Love this recipe from her!

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Share Your Story

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Purpose…

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Never forget this! No matter what detours you may have taken in life, you can still fulfill your God-given purpose. Never give up… go boldly in the direction of your dreams!

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Who Are You?

Who are you? A question that I’ve witnessed plague so many due to insecurities, disappointments, and unfulfilled goals/dreams. But did you know that you can speak words that hold power and can literally change your life if you are open to it?

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The tongue is the most powerful tool on your body… use it to your advantage! Discover the power of starting your day saying “I Am” and fill in the blank after those words to describe who you desire to be if you are currently non there.

Examples are:

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Try it and share your experience below. Remember… You are what you say you are so give some self-love and speak greatness!

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9th reason to #MeetMeInCostaRica

Per my E3Retreats Blog:

Rise and Shine! Here is reason #9 on why you should join E3Retreats in Costa Rica this fall!
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YOU ARE COMING OUT STRONGER AND BETTER THAN WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH‼️ have #faith #godsgotyou #keepmovingforward #lifelessons from a #lifecoach #LiveVisionNow

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