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Within a couple of hours, as time passed, he entered my room, silently and secretively as a lion would his prey. I tried to play like I was sleep, but he woke me. He asked if I was ok and apologized for the way my mother spoke to me earlier. I just replied with a smile because truthfully, I didn’t’ even understand her statement as a 7yr old. Then he proceeded to tell me everything was ok and that I could trust him.

At that moment, I began to feel the same confusion I did when my mother disciplined me for the way I interacted with her “man.” He than began to hug me and touch me softly on my face. The thoughts of fatherly love softly warmed my heart. The feelings of concern drifted away as I knew he was there to protect me… so I thought.

What happened after that innocent moment was that thing that haunted me for many years afterwards. That moment of disgust later became the result of childhood nightmares, the fighting in school, loss of self-worth, confusion, hatred, and adult male trust issues. These all propelled and played a part of my life of ridiculous faith.

Yes, the ugliest moments in my life became one of the forefront reasons I had ridiculous faith in knowing God had more in store for me, and I wasn’t going to stop believing until I saw it come to pass.

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This excerpt from my upcoming book is just a piece of my unreported story as a survivor of sexual abuse from the hands of my stepfather. I state “unreported” because it was never reported to authorities and with the death threats made by my accuser, I feared my life. With this, I never (until adulthood) shared the things he did to me repeatedly.

The molestation began at the tender age of seven and grew to abuse over the years. For many years I struggled with self-worth, anger, and trust issues as a result of these horrific incidents. It wasn’t until I was forced to seek psychiatric help at the age of fourteen due to multiple failed suicidal attempts, that my thought process began to change. My early twenties would be where I no longer had the thoughts of “ALL MEN” being defiled creatures. And it wasn’t until my latter twenties where I completely released the pain that scarred me throughout my childhood.

Now I stand unashamed of the incidents that occurred as I know it too served a purpose  for my good. Through my pain, I am able to help other persevere.

Through my Teen KICK Ministry, I teach young girls how to not allow labels of hurt, shame, or even social media to define them. I lead through teaching their identity is found through Christ.

I share to state, You TOO can overcome. Know you are not alone and that with Christ… all things are possible, including overcoming sexual abuse or harassment.

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(**Thank you Tarana Burke who started the movement #MeTOO 10 years ago and to Alyssa Milano for helping gain more awareness by using your platform.)

Hurricane Harvey SURVIVOR

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On August 30th at 11:21am, my two month old son Creed, my mom and myself were rescued from the rising waters of Hurricane Harvey after a 10hr wait via boat.

This by far was the scariest thing I’ve encountered. We knew it was coming. We expected “high winds and lots of rain” per the weather report but no one expected this!

We awaited 10hrs with water that rose to our knees within our home before rescue arrived. The images of looking out the window and seeing water reaching the windows and covering our above the ground pool, will never escape my memory.

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Having to remain calm so my baby wouldn’t feel my anxiety was a challenge but I’m grateful to God that I overcame. We went from church (which also flooded), to shelter (which also flooded), to a friends home, to finally arriving at my brothers home once he was able to drive 1hr 30mins but of course that took more than 3hrs to come get us after taking back roads, and driving through water a couple days after.

We lost EVERYTHING. From my grandmothers home, which was also the home I grew up in, our vehicle, and material possessions inside the home are all gone BUT thank God we are alive!

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Check out the lovely wrap given by a stranger turned friend from Facebook. She heard I lost my wrap in the storm so she so graciously gave me hers.

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I am so grateful for the outpour of support from friends near and far that have reached out and collected items for my baby and me via social media. We are still awaiting assistance from FEMA which I know is a lengthy process due to the thousands like me that are displaced.

I ask that you all join in prayer with me as we persevere through this catastrophic event. I refuse to give up. I know this too shall pass and will still be used for the good.

Many Blessings,

Coach K

TGIM! I’m Back! How BIG is your faith?

Hey Hey Heyyyyy!!!!

 

TGIM is back!

Check it out below, share and comment! Let’s kick off our Monday with motivation.

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Say it with Action

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Say it with your action!

One of the most powerful and motivational acts one can do is be a person who lives what they speak. A person who shows love through action, show trust through action, belief through action and being obedient to the direction and order God has for them through action.

You never know who you are inspiring through what you DO, not just what you say you are doing or what you will do. In the words of Nike, “just do it!”

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Be BOLD

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God’s word says “be confident that He hears us whenever we ask for anything that pleases Him. And since we know He hears us when we make our requests, we also know that He give us what we ask for.” 1 John 5:13-15

When I dive into this message, a few of things stand out to me. Three particular things are

  1. We should be confident (certain that something will happen or that something is true) knowing that God hears us
  2. Whenever we ask for anything that pleases (to make (someone) happy or satisfied) Him
  3. Then know He hears (to listen to (someone or something)) us and will give us what we ask for

Being confident or as the dictionary states, “certain that something will happen… is telling us that we shouldn’t question IF He heard our prayer. BUT that we must recognize that those requests are granted when they are pleasing to God and not against His will. This is how we will know He hears us and will grant our requests.

When I’m praying about a particular situation and wondering if God hears my cry, I remember the dissection of this scripture.  It’s important to not always focus on what we need for ourselves but to recognize if what we want for ourselves, lives and those around us is in God’s will and pleasing to Him.

Food for thought,

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Confessions of a Confidence Coach!

Hey there, guess what…

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And as usual, I like to reflect on my past year but this year, I’m doing it a little different. I’ve decided to not only reflect on this past year but to reflect on my entire life! I call this my:

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Confessions of a Confidence Coach!

Each day throughout my birth month I will share thirty-five life lessons I know to be true from my thirty-five years on this earth. I will blog about it, podcast, vblog or whatever I feel to share the message. This is my way of giving back to the masses. I’ve decided my 35th year will be the year of transparency. My hope during this process is that my life lessons will help you to reflect, share your truth or even allow you to gain an aha or piece of inspiration from my life to continue on your journey.

Here is Life Lessons #1:

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Throughout my life there have been times where I’ve shined brightly, showcasing my talents and being a bodacious leader. Then there have also been times I did not. I dimmed my light so those around me could be comfortable. My lesson is… “you should never dim your light for the comfort of others.”

Each of us were given a specific gift. In Ephesians 4:1 “As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received.” This to me shares we are ALL giving a specific calling and it’s our duty to walk worthy in it no matter what others say. Never allow your light to be dimmed simply because it makes others uncomfortable. You are not living for them… your life is for HIM and that’s what matters most.

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“The ‪#‎bible‬ is the ‪#‎answer‬ key to it all”
This is soooooo #true for me. No matter what the situation may be, I can ALWAYS find the answer in the B I B L E📖😘
Stay ‪#‎prayedup‬ and know ‪#‎godsgotthis‬ ‪#‎nothingtohardforgod‬‪#‎nevergiveup‬ ‪#‎trusttheprocess‬ ‪#‎read‬ it helps! ‪#‎morningmotivation‬‪#‎wordsofwisdom‬ from ‪#‎CoachK‬ ‪#‎activateyourfaith‬ ‪#‎bossbabe‬

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Enough said!

Dare to Go F.A.R.

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How far are you willing to go?

Many times in life we have expectations without wanting to do the work but God says He blesses the hands of a diligent worker. We must be willing to put action behind our faith in order to receive our desires results.

What will you do today that will bring you closer to your goals tomorrow??

~Kisha

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